We were lucky with my dad. He was in his 80's and taking care of my mom in the large house where we grew up, she had dementia. When he was diagnosed with Parkinsons, he pulled his keys from his pocket and said, "Well I guess it's time to sell the Lincoln and move." All I could do was look to the heavens and say thank you!
My mother-in-law, however, was a different story. She had not driven for 3 years as my father-in-law did all of the driving. When he passed, she wanted to start driving again, in her mid 80's. She argued she could still drive! I said yes you probably can. I asked are your reflexes as fast as they used to be, and she agreed they were not. So, I asked will you be able to react when a young child darts in front of you chasing a ball? Can you live with the consequences? That seemed to sink in and the need to drive disappeared.
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