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12-17-2011, 09:10 PM
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Lost my Dad today
Basically sucks all around.
My folks belong to a cult, and told me years ago that they would rather not get to know my kids (their Grandkids) so they wouldn't miss them "after Armaggedon"". So I made my peace with that years ago. My older brother called me this afternoon and told me Dad was in a vegetative state and thought I should know before they pull the plug on his ventilator. He had gone into the hospital two days ago for knee surgery, and they couldn't revive him after the operation. His brain activity dropped off the charts last night. I didn't even know he was going in. So my brother tells me they (he and my sister, who are also in the cult) decided they wouldn't call me until after he died, in case he came around and got better, in which case, they wouldn't call me at all, I guess. Then after I get to the hospital, I stand around waiting for thirty minutes until the "Elders" finish whatever kind of ritual they were performing. After that, I went in and was with my Dad for a few minutes. I could tell he was long gone. I then went into the waiting room, where my Mom and about twenty from the group were sitting around. I went straight over to Mom, bent over, kissed her on the cheek and told her I loved her. She replied with, "We weren't going to call you." I just said, "I'm glad you did" and left. Can't wait for the funeral and all the pleasant surprises that will bring. Sorry for the rant, just getting it off my chest. Kurt |
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12-17-2011, 09:12 PM
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Sorry to hear buddy -
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12-17-2011, 09:23 PM
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I'm sorry to hear about your Dad and the emotions that go with it along with the cult factor.
I hope N pray that you feel as good as can be expected. That is a different life situation to be faced with but stand firm and it sounds like you have as much of you possibly can. Take care Kurt. |
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12-17-2011, 09:30 PM
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Very sorry for your loss ( on many levels).
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12-17-2011, 09:30 PM
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sorry for your pain,its always hard even more so at this time of year.
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12-17-2011, 10:16 PM
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Kurt, This is just a very different circumstance than most anyone faces, Prayers out to you and the entire family.
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12-17-2011, 10:19 PM
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Sorry for your loss Kurt. NO matter what he was your Dad. May he rest in peace.
My sister is in some sort of cult..IMO..I just deal with it too...hard at times to understand.
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12-17-2011, 10:19 PM
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Sorry for your loss. I Have the same issue with my father...not that he is in a cult but doesn't want anything to do with his kids. I can't imagine how you are feeling. My father had both knees done and I found out 3 days after when someone called me from the hospital by accident. I guess that is my rant.
I guess just keep plugging away. You can't change people and you are a stronger man for it. Just try not to buy black Nike hightops. (sorry, I had to say it) |
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12-17-2011, 10:20 PM
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Sorry for your loss,wish things could be different for you.
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12-17-2011, 10:29 PM
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Very sorry to hear, Kurt...my condolences.
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12-17-2011, 11:13 PM
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Sorry to hear,Glad ya made peace though..
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12-17-2011, 11:20 PM
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Sad to hear Kurt. I don't look forward to the day when I get the same news and I agree with Troy, no matter what he was your dad, I know this firsthand.
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12-17-2011, 11:22 PM
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I am very sorry for your loss as well as his.
My you both find peace. -Harry
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12-17-2011, 11:27 PM
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Very sorry for your loss.
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12-17-2011, 11:31 PM
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Sorry to hear Kurt!!.. May he rest in peace now
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12-17-2011, 11:44 PM
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I am sorry for your loss. May God bless and comfort you.
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12-18-2011, 12:07 AM
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Sorry for your loss. Prayed one up for you and your family.
After my mom died, my dad handed her ashes off to my sister, gave away the stuff she loved (including wedding pictures), and pretty much cut us kids out of his life. He got remarried within two years and has only seen us kids 7 days in the last three years. Before her death, we'd see them 4-5 days a month. His new wife is the one nagging him to come see us. If it weren't for her we wouldn't see him at all. My daughters cry for hours because to them they've lost both their grandparents and can't figure out why grandpa doesn't love them anymore. Just tears me up inside.
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12-18-2011, 12:10 AM
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No need to be sorry for the "rant". Thats what we're here for.
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12-18-2011, 12:18 AM
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Sad to hear that Keith, You're not alone though when it comes to relatives like that!
Hang in ....
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12-18-2011, 12:34 AM
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Very sorry to read and learn of this situation for you Kurt. If there is any way to help comfort you , please let me know. Wishing you well always.
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