[67drake]

I’m not going to give my life story here, but I battled alcohol and to some extent drugs when I was young too. Absolutely don’t let an addict or alcoholic off the hook by enabling them! I eventually got a job that I excelled at, stayed there over 30 years, and got my act together. Now I have a great family and am ready to retire early. None of this would have happened if my parents would have let me live rent free at their home.
Many people think “It’s my kid, I can’t let them live on the streets!” BS! It’s their choice and life NOT yours!
Don’t expect them to transform overnight either. Let them take their own path and make it on their own. It might be ugly at first, but if they want to make a life for themselves, they will, all by themselves. No need to baby , judge, or prod them. Let them go, be supportive and positive, but don’t carry them.