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Originally Posted by 67drake
That’s a horrible story and I feel for the parents, but THEY didn’t contribute to their sons death, he did it on his own. I’m not trying to be callous or cold, but people have to be responsible for their own decisions. Note I said be supportive and not judgmental, but from my experience it’s the first step towards them making it. Enabling just delays the outcome while making everyone else around them part of their drama.
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This mirrors my experience. My parents divorced over the divide between enabling and not enabling. In the end my brother died at 37 from an overdose. No one's fault but his own. No matter how needless, or sad, he chose his path.
The most profound way I've heard the advise to not enable was by a pro. He was a psychologist who'd personally battled alcoholism. He put it like this, "addiction cannot exist in a vacuum". FWIW