[CarFreak]

I have lived (in the country) next door to Psycho Kid with useless mother and now-deceased *##&@~% father for 15 years. The "kid" is now about 27 but that doesn't stop him from regularly tossing his trash into our yard and pretending to run into me if he sees my truck driving down the road (fortunately my truck is a LOT bigger than his). Actually this is a significant improvement with what we had to deal with a dozen years ago.

Anyhow, pictures & video are the best way to go. If that is not possible then a verifiable witness is also great. Worked for me when the kid (then about 16 yrs) threatened to kill our entire family but he was stupid and said it in front of the in-laws and a contractor. That got him a trip to Juve, an orange jumpsuit and mom/dad let him cool his heels for about a week. We accomplished a no-contact order until he turned 21. A wonderful thing but not 100% perfect.

Oh yeah - - the point of my post. Unlisted phone number? Do a web search; you never know what you'll find. So many people post lots of info on the web. Keep looking & be creative. Doing general web searches using various info: mom's name, etc. you might just find where she works, her email, etc.

www.whitepages.com - use Reverse Address (or Reverse Phone number) to get info. Love it.

Further, need info on her real estate property? Check your city, township or county records - most are now available online. If you need discretion, use your library. You might find dad's name or other useful info.

The "dirty work" - do you realize that when people put their garbage to the curb it is considered "abandoned"? If you really want to know someone go through their trash. With gloves - spread out on a tarp that you will later discard. Not speaking from experience here a friend did this.

Putting all of this together - bits & pieces, etc. you can usually find out a fair amount about many people these days. Need help? I would be pleased to assist (on the computer - not the bag of trash). I am new to this board but fairly active on others. I do a lot of this on a daily basis and have gotten pretty good at it with limited resources (no access to paid sites).

When is your daughter's birthday? Get her a nice little digital camera with video ability. I have a small Sony that cost about $200. It takes great pics and video clips but is also small and light enough to carry in any pocket. I have it with me almost all the time. If she is being personally harassed then she can whip out the camera and record it for posterity. Or further you get one and carry it with you when you are there. Also mini voice operated recorder? For you, your ex or your daughter. They are fairly inexpensive.