[NeighborsComplaint]

Originally Posted by Will

I always shake my head when I read about stuff like this. I guess some guys will do just about anything for a little action. There is no way I would ever have a woman I didn't know well and trust completely move in with me. Stuff like this would've been discussed beforehand.

Well Dr. Phil, I guess you know it all.

I'm going to let you in on a little secret. You never truly know what someone is thinking or what they are capable of doing.

I dated this woman for 7 years. She was OK company to be around but a steady diet was dangerous. She had a switch that would just go off with the least provocation or perceived slight. First couple of years, I attributed it to her quirkiness. As time passed, I was lied to, stolen from and constantly goaded to pull my entire retirement savings out so she could live in luxury and not work. My house was paid for and I had the 62 years of age retirement finish line in my sights when we split up. She wanted more debt and damn the consequences. This was a professional woman with a $150K/Yr job, heavily invested in the stock market, and who paid cash for her Mercedes and thought I should continue working so she could quit work. She enrolled her kid in a $20K a year private academy/Hockey School without my input and expected me to share in this expense "as partners", She also wanted her kid to go to Boston College.

Smile and thank the waitress for good service? First the silent treatment all the way home and then the ****storm. A peck on the cheek from a female former classmate at your class reunion? She would storm outside and refuse to come back in. ****storm ensues. Go out with your buddies for a beer? "You'd rather be with your buddies than me? Why don't you go home and sleep by yourself then?" I could go on but I won't.

People are not always who you think they are no matter how long or how well you think you know them.

I don't know your age, but try dipping your toe in the dating pool in your late '50's and see what you catch.

[Sirrotica]

Originally Posted by NeighborsComplaint

Well Dr. Phil, I guess you know it all.

I'm going to let you in on a little secret. You never truly know what someone is thinking or what they are capable of doing.

I dated this woman for 7 years. She was OK company to be around but a steady diet was dangerous. She had a switch that would just go off with the least provocation or perceived slight. First couple of years, I attributed it to her quirkiness. As time passed, I was lied to, stolen from and constantly goaded to pull my entire retirement savings out so she could live in luxury and not work. My house was paid for and I had the 62 years of age retirement finish line in my sights when we split up. She wanted more debt and damn the consequences. This was a professional woman with a $150K/Yr job, heavily invested in the stock market, and who paid cash for her Mercedes and thought I should continue working so she could quit work. She enrolled her kid in a $20K a year private academy/Hockey School without my input and expected me to share in this expense "as partners", She also wanted her kid to go to Boston College.

Smile and thank the waitress for good service? First the silent treatment all the way home and then the ****storm. A peck on the cheek from a female former classmate at your class reunion? She would storm outside and refuse to come back in. ****storm ensues. Go out with your buddies for a beer? "You'd rather be with your buddies than me? Why don't you go home and sleep by yourself then?" I could go on but I won't.

People are not always who you think they are no matter how long or how well you think you know them.

I don't know your age, but try dipping your toe in the dating pool in your late '50's and see what you catch.

The things you describe are signs of mental illness, unfortunately I have been there and done that. 25 years and the little things get to be mountains over the years. Lying, cheating, and stealing, alcohol abuse, because they think they are entitled to 1/2 of everything, and anything they can get beyond the 50% that the law says they're entitled to.

When I was getting divorced, her attorney started talking about me paying alimony. I got on the phone and told her attorney that she should know that her client (my soon to be X wife) was crazy, and if she ever mentioned alimony again I would let the house go back to the bank, file bankruptcy and she would never get paid, because all the equity was in the house and property. Her attorney thought I was bluffing and told my attorney that. My attorney told her from knowing me and representing me, that I probably would carry out what I had outlined, and if he were her, the subject should be dropped.

I never heard anymore about alimony from that point. I wanted out, I was willing to pay half, and be fair. I wasn't willing to be taken advantage of, I had already been taken advantage of by a conniving, mentally ill, alcoholic, vindictive, nutcase.

That wasn't who I married 25 years before that, people do change, and they do deceive their partners. Mental illness is a progressive thing, add alcoholism, and things go south before you know it.

Rant over............

[NeighborsComplaint]

Originally Posted by Sirrotica

The things you describe are signs of mental illness, unfortunately I have been there and done that. 25 years and the little things get to be mountains over the years. Lying, cheating, and stealing, alcohol abuse, because they think they are entitled to 1/2 of everything, and anything they can get beyond the 50% that the law says they're entitled to.

When I was getting divorced, her attorney started talking about me paying alimony. I got on the phone and told her attorney that she should know that her client (my soon to be X wife) was crazy, and if she ever mentioned alimony again I would let the house go back to the bank, file bankruptcy and she would never get paid, because all the equity was in the house and property. Her attorney thought I was bluffing and told my attorney that. My attorney told her from knowing me and representing me, that I probably would carry out what I had outlined, and if he were her, the subject should be dropped.

I never heard anymore about alimony from that point. I wanted out, I was willing to pay half, and be fair. I wasn't willing to be taken advantage of, I had already been taken advantage of by a conniving, mentally ill, alcoholic, vindictive, nutcase.

That wasn't who I married 25 years before that, people do change, and they do deceive their partners. Mental illness is a progressive thing, add alcoholism, and things go south before you know it.

Rant over............

Yup

[67drake]

Originally Posted by Sirrotica

The things you describe are signs of mental illness, unfortunately I have been there and done that. 25 years and the little things get to be mountains over the years. Lying, cheating, and stealing, alcohol abuse, because they think they are entitled to 1/2 of everything, and anything they can get beyond the 50% that the law says they're entitled to.

When I was getting divorced, her attorney started talking about me paying alimony. I got on the phone and told her attorney that she should know that her client (my soon to be X wife) was crazy, and if she ever mentioned alimony again I would let the house go back to the bank, file bankruptcy and she would never get paid, because all the equity was in the house and property. Her attorney thought I was bluffing and told my attorney that. My attorney told her from knowing me and representing me, that I probably would carry out what I had outlined, and if he were her, the subject should be dropped.

I never heard anymore about alimony from that point. I wanted out, I was willing to pay half, and be fair. I wasn't willing to be taken advantage of, I had already been taken advantage of by a conniving, mentally ill, alcoholic, vindictive, nutcase.

That wasn't who I married 25 years before that, people do change, and they do deceive their partners. Mental illness is a progressive thing, add alcoholism, and things go south before you know it.

Rant over............

So you were married to my ex too huh?
My ex had a switch she could flip on and off at will. One minute be at the PTA meeting, next thing you know some bartender is calling me at work telling me she passed out on the floor and if I didn’t come get her they’re calling the cops. This got old real quick and she refused to even acknowledge she ever did anything wrong. Lies, cheating, whatever. But she could put on the princess act around family and church to a t.
See ya!

[59safaricat]

Originally Posted by NeighborsComplaint

People are not always who you think they are no matter how long or how well you think you know them.

I can't emphasize this one enough and it relates to coworkers even more so than friends and family. The loony older females are very well skilled at hiding their batsh!t craziness but once it rears its ugly head, watch out and never turn your back to them!