[Bobalong]

Originally Posted by pggto

Yes I've tried those as well, currently has a new one, with joints.

Without a doubt you have given this a lot of thought and $$. Hopefully someone here will help. Bet it doesn't vibrate in neutral at the given RPM, that's too easy. If the mirror / steering wheel are shaking but not so much in your butt it's an indication of front wheel- tire- rotor balance. Can you find an old school tire balance machine that uses spinner and strobe light. The wheel-tire stays on, and is spun on the car ? You can individually check each wheel.
Put it on a dyno ? Where you can tour around the car as it revs the desired RPM.