[Mike S]

How many know someone that is addicted to video games. My son is 23 living with his sister on there own. He has a part time job and spends every wakeing hour in his room playing video games. No girlfreind, no friends, no life other than working, sleeping and play video games. They are more importent than doing household responsablities like trash, cleaning the bathroom or doing laundry. I try to get through but it never does. I get "i am happy this way" and " I am not hurting anyone or doing anything illegal". He is wasteing his life away and I can't make him see it.

Any ideas on how I can make him see he has a problem?

[andyg]

I'm 22 myself and know a few people like this. Getting through to them is near impossible for even someone their age. I have friends, a girlfriend, the GTO, multitudes of other good things in life. The one thing I do not have is video games. Never was allowed to by my parents growing up even if I was going to buy with my own money, nor do I have any interest in ever owning any. I thank them for this as when I was 14 I had enough money to buy the gto and have it running by the time I was 17.

I try to get people like this to come out to a mild outing. Show them that a good time can be had while not burning your eyes out in front of a TV all day. This has worked a few times, but obviously wouldn't work for a parent. There needs to be that other person their age to initiate it. I have found that if the person goes out and has a good time, they will usually be more open to it in the future (obviously). The people I have "helped" usually realize that being socially engaged with the opposite sex is a lot more fun. Not trying to be crude, but finding women does an amazing thing to guys to make them want to go out. lol

[68lemansman]

I would purposely plan trips or places he likes to go and if he ask why he wasn't invited then I would bring the fact that he don't have time cause of his video games. I would also try to figure out if there was things outside the house he would love to do and do more of it as a possibility to get his attention away from his game.

[Bl1tzw1ng]

What does it matter? If that's his thing, let him enjoy it. Mine does the same and he's not out knockin girls up, doing drugs, hanging out with idiots, out late driving drunk or driving with drunks on the road. He works, will take care of the important things and gets great grades.

If he's a good kid, just appreciate him for who and what he is.

[Gulliver]

I'll submit that at 23 years old... it may be a little late for life's "time-management" and "goal setting" lessons. At least he's not camped out at your house.

I'll add that my 15 y/o son (lives with his mother, not me) would like to live the same life if he could. He was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome a couple years ago, which is a form of Autism.

[foxwolf321]

Dont worry about about it. Games are getting more and more boring, he will look for other things to do sooner or later

[Ben M.]

I used to do nothing but play video games. Then I decided to finish school as that was more important. You can't force him to stop playing, especially if he really enjoys it. Focus on him at least having a job and not being a junkie, stealing or knocking up girls.

Yeah, you'd like him to be more motivated and do more things, but not everyone is motivated at that particular age. He'll grow out of it eventually - even if it takes longer than you think it should.

[69goatboy]

Originally Posted by Mike S

Any ideas on how I can make him see he has a problem?

[Blackcat]

I'm a pretty hard core Video game addict. At one point when I was broke it was the only thing that I could do and not spend lots of money. I've slowly worked my way out of the 12+ hours a day I used to play. Things like a job and paying bills and real live things always take priority in my world. My home is clean and the pets are fed and cared for. I've been working on my Vega project one small step at a time. I still play a lot. Including my new game World of Tanks. But, Real life always takes priority.

[foxwolf321]

haha a wallet warrior on a car forum, who knew! Zadrin if you want to look me up

but on topic, he is on his own, working. He is fine. My brother was just like him, but he got the real life bug and now is productive!

[Scarebird]

Mike S' son would be in his mid-30's now: wonder how his son turned out?

[LastoftheThinkers]

If Mike responds it will be interesting to see.

[SRR]

I have 3 co-workers all over 30 that talk about nothing but gaming. Good grief is that the best thing they can do with their time?

[72projectbird]

I like to play various games. I dont let them get in way of responsibilities, but I'll certainly play if there's nothing going on. My brothers and I would play a lot, but life has a way of cutting into free time.

Still, there's nothing wrong with it. It's no different than filling free time with any other hobby.

[dataway]

Yep, you gotta add up all your time watching sports, working on cars, weeding the garden, sitting on the porch, watching TV. Some people find all that as worthless as some people might consider playing games. Back in the day people would get together and play cards for hours on end.

Wife and I have been playing games for 40 years, heck we've been playing with the same group for 20 years. Probably six hours a week, 20 years ago it was probably 12 hours a week. Met a lot of nice people. Just finished our every Friday night 2 hours of playing Battlefield 6 with them.

And I'm 67 and the wife is 59. I go WAY back with computers though. I've seen her family go on vacation and spend six hours a day playing the same card game.

I consider watching sports a total waste of time, paying to watch a business that has convinced people a meaningless uniform or team has some kind of meaning in their life. Like watching a Chevy, ATT or IBM commercial for hours.

Times change, pass-times change.

[Region Warrior]

Ya my son was camamdr on world war games in hs. Head phn and mic etc.
Could hear him yelling commands. You people need to listen!
Finally realized most people are stupid.
Not sure got that from me.....
Started as cook in sport bar.
Then manged kithennwithin 6 months for a yr.

Got job at CN rail yard.
2nd yr became 1st shift forman crew of 15.
Got call while on vacation he passed testing over 3 others failed.
Youngest there most 15-20 yrs his senior.
Had to take over operate crane when a guy dropped a conex and failed drug test.
Just offered job at steel mill better pension.

Daughter managed an Aldies grocery store after 1st yr as cashier for a yr.
Then change managed 3 gas stations 3 yrs.
Decided try gridhawk locating gas and electric lines.
2 yrs later lead tech in city.
Just saying dont be scared try something...

I was same way.
5 different jobs 1st 10 yrs before found reasonably liked 40 yrs before dam this job sucks!

[72projectbird]

Originally Posted by dataway

Met a lot of nice people. Just finished our every Friday night 2 hours of playing Battlefield 6 with them.

I'm looking forward to the release of MW4.

I've been being a giant pain in the ass lately on various CODs, running AKs with grenade launchers, RPG secondary, and frag grenades. lol

[dataway]

My problem is a sense of duty, if my guys are playing I always feel guilty about not playing because they might "need" me

I get killed too many times protecting the wife, making sure she has ammo, watching her six as she runs around like Leroy Jenkins.

They really nerfed the grenade launcher in BF6, used to be great.

Uh-oh, we don't want this thread to turn into a game discussion, that might be a waste of time

Originally Posted by 72projectbird

I'm looking forward to the release of MW4.

I've been being a giant pain in the ass lately on various CODs, running AKs with grenade launchers, RPG secondary, and frag grenades. lol

[KS circutguy]

Games today are a big rip off IMO Way too expensive.
Games really have gotten bad from 'lazy' developers. Sales have fallen dramatically.
Developers are putting together AI driven crap that are way overpriced.
Add to that the outrageous amount of people using cheats including https://titantwodevice.com/.
I still enjoy HL2 series including Deathmatch.lol

[dataway]

They are definitely churning out eye candy instead of well constructed, good playing games. Everything is now on corporate servers too, miss the days when a "clan" would rent their own server and deal with cheaters themselves.

I know that BF6 has implemented protections against the Titan and other hardware related cheats, but it's a never ending battle.

I miss Quake Team Arena, Quake Death Match, BF2 and 3, and Bad Company 2, probably the best team FPS ever made .... then EA bought the creator and down hill from there.